"The Ten Most Dangerous
Mistakes YOU Probably
Make With Men—
And What To Do About It...”
Here Are The Top Ten Reasons Why
Women Keep Themselves From Living
The Love Life Of Their Dreams—
And How To Make Sure You Avoid Every One Of Them...
MISTAKE #1: Betting Your Love Life On His “Potential”
Do you know any women who want the man they're dating to behave differently?
Of course you do.
And just like me, I'm sure you have friends
who date guys who don't have much going for them
or who don't treat them very well. Somehow these women always have an excuse
for the guy's shortcomings.
What's going on here?
It's actually very simple.
Women (and men) don't base their choices of
men on how “nice” or “good” someone is to them day-to-day. Women choose the men they do because they
feel a powerful GUT LEVEL ATTRACTION for them.
And guess what?
Some women will continue to put up with a
guy that doesn't treat them very well. Sometimes for months or years...
But why in the world would a woman do that!?
Well, to put it simply, they confuse the
strong attraction they feel for the guy with a deeper “connection”. Women who do this are doomed to end up
in failed relationships with the “wrong” guys.
How do I know?
Because I've seen it at least a hundred
times...And because I've been this guy in the past
myself.
Thinking back on past dating and relationships
I've had, I was selfish and didn't offer much. I'm amazed the women put up with me. But they did...all the while hoping that
I would somehow change. The women I dated hoped I'd change.
The only thing they saw in me that led
them to want to keep me around was the “potential”
they saw in me to share my feelings and communicate
with them. The potential for something better and
the potential for me to change and be a better
lover, boyfriend, companion or whatever...The truth was, I was hopelessly bad at these
things at the time.
And more importantly, I wasn't even at a place
in my life where I knew how to or was interested
in developing a deep and committed relationship -
with ANYONE. But deep down these women believed that if
they tried hard enough, that it would make up
for what was lacking.
They believed that I could become someone else
with them.... and that this would be easy for us
both. Talk about a losing battle.
It doesn't make a lot of “logical” sense...
But until you accept that lots of women do
this AND that YOU could be doing it on some level,
you'll NEVER have the success with men that you
choose and want.
MISTAKE #2: Assuming You “Get” Men & Their Psychology
Men are different from women. You need to accept this fact, and deal with it. When a woman sees a man, she can very quickly
pick apart certain things about his style, body
language, status and character that will tell her
all kinds of things about him. Lots of women don't even consciously see that
they do this because the process is so obvious and
simple for them.
But does the same apply for men?
As you probably already know, men are generally
more visual. As a result, they often don't understand
non-verbal communication as well as women. And men often lack what women have in emotional
awareness and “intuition”. Women don't seem to remember this about men.
So do men feel sexually attracted to w0men
based just on looks? Or is something else going on? Well, after studying this topic for years now,
and talking to thousands of men and women, I can tell you that men have their “attraction mechanisms”
triggered by things OTHER than looks. Especially when it comes to longer term relationships. Looks just happen to be the most obvious way...
But looks are NOT the most powerful.
If you know how to use your body language AND
communication correctly, you can make men feel
the same kind of powerful sexual attraction to
you that YOU feel when you see that hot, great
looking guy that you got to know. But it's not an accident. You have to LEARN how to do this. And ANY woman can learn how...
MISTAKE #3: Pretending To Be Something For A Man
In the desire to please a man, women are
constantly doing things to get a man's attention,
to get him to like them or to make him more
attracted or in love with them. Another HORRIBLE idea. Lots of women mistakenly think that doing
unusual things to try and get a guys attention
will make him magically see what a great catch
they are and want to be with them.
Wrong.
Men YOU TRULY WANT are never attracted to
the types of women who kiss up to them, make
weak plays for affection or complain to get
what they want... EVER. Don't get me wrong here. Things like being
sexy for a man or encouraging him to share his
feelings can be good, but it has to be genuine,
unselfish, and most of all timely.
You don't have to act like an “easy” woman
for men to like you, and you certainly don't have
to play like he's some gift to the Earth. Doing these things actually works to subtly,
at an subconscious level, lower your social status
with a man, which has EVERYTHING to do with how
he sees you as a woman.
So if you think that making him more attracted
to you means “playing to the man's fantasies” from
the start, think again. You'll never succeed by looking for a man's
approval, finding your way into his heart through
sex and not being yourself.
MISTAKE #4: Sharing How You “Feel” Too Early With Him
Another huge and unfortunate mistake that
most women make with men is sharing how they “feel” too early on.
Listen...
Attractive, single, successful men are rare. They get a LOT of attention from women. Most women don't realize this, but attractive men
are being approached in one way or another all the time by women.
And guess what?
Attractive men have usually dated a lot of women.
That's right. They have EXPERIENCE.
They know what to expect.
And one thing that turns an attractive men off
and sends him running away faster than just about
anything... It's a woman who starts saying “You know, I really,
REALLY like you” after one or two dates. This signals to the man that you're just like
one of those “clingy” stereotype women who want
to rush into a relationship and can't control
yourself from wanting a man to fulfill them and
complete their lives.
This does NOT spell ATTRACTION for a man.
Don't do it. Lean back. Relax.
There's a much better way...
MISTAKE #5: Misreading The Important “Signals” That Men Send
Men are constantly communicating how they
feel about a woman and giving away big secrets
about themselves. Most women don't pay attention to these
signals or recognize them for what they really
are.
The signals men send have 4 main levels:
1) Social: Where the man is at in his own life - stability, confidence, direction
2) Emotional: Whether or not he's “emotionally available”
3) Physical: If he's attracted to you... and for what reasons
4) Love State: If he's open to building and growing a relationship in the future
The funny thing is that men send signals in these areas completely on accident. That's great news to women... Men can't help it! You need to learn to recognize these signals to
get anywhere serious with a man.
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